I saw a post the other day that read, “2019 felt like two different years,” and I couldn’t have agreed more. So much has happened this year, and everything’s different than it was last year. The first half of the year was comfortable and felt “easy”. The second half of 2019 was honestly exhausting. There’s a reason for it, I’m just not sure of what that reason is yet. I cried a lot in the latter part of the year and I felt like I was on a daily rollercoaster of emotions. I’m already on a different path going into 2020 simply because I needed to adapt and that alone forced me to grow.
I realize that every year people shout, “New Year, New Me” from the rooftops. It’s cliche and easy to say those words. Everyone has the best of intentions when they set off into a new year. Many people do and will fail at meeting their “New Years Resolutions”. Not because it’s not what they wanted, but because their reasoning behind it wasn’t strong enough. They didn’t have anyone holding them accountable, and the people around them aren’t on the same page. It’s easy to get comfortable with what you’ve always known.
Every change leads to a different season of growth. Things end and people leave and it’s really hard. Going with the flow is important, but it’s okay to give yourself time to mourn something that mattered to you. You’re human and growing attached isn’t wrong. What’s wrong is holding onto something that wasn’t meant to stay, and won’t ever be that way again. You can want something with your whole heart but oftentimes that “want” occurs in a way you weren’t expecting. And sometimes what you thought you wanted wasn’t meant for you.
It’s almost expected to stay in the day-to-day, to let life happen and pass us by. I’m tired of letting the “norm” be what’s expected of us. I’m declaring this year one for tremendous growth because that’s what I want. It’s not just my year, it’s OUR year. What steps are you willing to take in order to change your life?
There’s a lot I’m planning to create and build this year. So much so that it can get to the point of overwhelm and I’ve found myself wanting to shut down. It’s easy to be swayed when your desires aren’t understood by those around you. It’s almost too easy to give up. Our minds are good at protecting us from what’s terrifying and it’s comforting to give in to the fear by staying comfortable. That’s fine and all, but I have no desire to stay still.
How can anyone feel motivated to do anything if they’re expecting an instant return on investment? It’s hard work, but it’s important work. If you’re not willing to stick with something you’ll be where you’ve always been.
A hard pill for many to swallow is that It doesn’t matter what you want to anyone else but you. People love people, and people care about you, but at the end of the day, everyone’s uber focused on themselves. Simply because we’re human, we’re selflessly selfish in our pursuit to do good. It’s not a character flaw, it’s natural. Just like no one’s “always” good or how no one’s “never” on time. We’re everything and nothing which is what makes life interesting.
That being said, if you want something, YOU need to want it enough to figure out a way to get it. YOU get to make that choice. People around you can support and encourage, but no one can want it as much as you do.
Get serious about your goals. And I mean REALLY serious. If you’re broke, figure out your spending habits and shift accordingly. Want to lose weight? Reach out to people who can help you further. Have a dream of running a 5K? Figure out what tools you need to begin. Talk to people who’ve done what you want, learn from those who are on the path you strive to grow from. Don’t expect the people who haven’t done what you want to give you any real advice. They mean well, but unless they’ve lived it, they don’t know.
Do you want 2020 to be your year? How would it feel looking back next December knowing that you did your best? What steps do you get to take right now to get started? My next piece of advice is this, find someone to help hold you accountable.
If it’s really your year, what’re you gonna do about it?